Books

Funny thing I discovered about myself:  When I had a simpler life I liked complicated books, like those of Friedrich Nietzsche, Erich Maria Remarque and a lot of psychology literature. But now, when after busy day I feel like my brain is ready to explode I need some really easy read :) … to let my brain relax a little. So, young adults’ and fantasy literature it is! :)

In this kind of literature like in most of the other, there are not so many strong female characters. They often follow the path which was predetermined for them by society. For example, I have a big problem with “Twilight” series by Stephenie Meyer even though at first I liked it. But what does it teach? To find some handsome guy and no matter what but to give birth to his child and nothing about some personal development. There were moments which really terrified me from the point of view how it can influence brains of young ladies. But I would rather not talk about it anymore…

I was recently surprised when reading fantasy series “Inheritance” by Christopher Paolini. There I encountered three very strong female characters, even though the series were written by a guy and the main character was a guy too. These three characters were: 1. elf-warior-ambassador (who eventually became a queen without a king); 2. human political and military leader who also became a queen without a king; 3. a fierce female dragon :) . I never sow so many and so strong female characters in one book/series and I felt a bit sad when finishing it. But then I found very interesting list of books:

http://www.goodreads.com/list/show/147.Best_Kick_Ass_Fantasy_Female_Characters_From_YA_and_Childrens

I really enjoyed checking out this list and chose some books I’d like to read, for example, “Protector of the small” series by Tamora Pierce.

Go women!

I really love this commercial (especially, 1.03-1.07)! It can be applied not only to sport but to all other things like career... Women can do a lot, when they really want to ;)

I was lucky to get to know one very successful woman. She is psychotherapist. I met her on the training course (for personal development) which she was conducting. Her husband once asked what she would choose: career or family. And she have told that she would pick career because family cannot give her all what career was giving: social status, respect, fulfillment, financial independence and many other things (very honest reply to a husband :) ).

In life of women there are no easy choices. But if you know in your hart who you really are and even if the road you choose is a bumpy one, do not hesitate, just start going!

Go girls! Go women! Go ladies!

Fighting cliché "Girl should be this and that..."

While checking out the lists of literature posted on SWG Coffee Social: Book Lists (list Ms. Readers’ 100 Best Non-Fiction Books of All Time: The Top 10 and the Complete List!) I found a very interesting interview of the author of one of the books (Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture
by Ariel Levy )

Interview with author of 'Female Chauvinist Pigs'

3:35 especially resonated with me. I realized why I have this very strong reaction on some messages from my family:
1.    Mom telling that I’m pretty when I am trying to make photo for resume. I’d prefer to hear some encouragement like… you are going to find a good job because you are a good professional or have potential or smth like that.
2.    Father giving me as presents stuff like mouse with picture of flowers or some infinitely stupid book “guide for young ladies” (that was a while ago but I still fill incredibly irritated about it), like the man does not know me at all and does not know that I hate this stupid cliché stuff.
3.    Sister constantly trying to tell me about finding a husband…
….

It feels that they do not appreciate enough my ambitions and already achieved professional results. Like it’s less valuable then something what was just given by nature. Like my belonging to female sex and birth giving ability is more important than my personality and professional fulfillment. Although, my parents are probably ones of the most supportive parents I’ve ever saw but still… when they bring out the topic that I am supposed to be this or that (kind of more feminine) I feel like I am ready to explode.

I know that I cannot change my parents, they are just the way they are and I love them any way. But still I wish that I would be raised and even now treated a bit differently. I feel like I needed to be more pressured to be successful and less pressured to get married and have children. Even though I forbade them even to mention it any more but it made the damage already. I feel that at times I really luck the drive to succeed because there is another scenario of becoming to some extent dependent woman. Even though I hate that 2-nd scenario, thanks to the society and my family in which I was raised, that scenario is still alive and at times implicitly undermines my determination. And this is something I should deal with and it is not easy, because this internal (and external) enemy has a lot of masks and sometimes when you recognize it, it’s too late and what is left to do is just  to repair the damage. I wish I had more examples around of successful women which I would want to fallow. But in my society successful woman is not too popular concept. And I cannot change it. So, I have to change the place. Only this way I can actually start living fulfilled and happy life and my ultimate pleasure would be then to start giving back.

 I rather recently realized that one more life mission has appeared in my life. Before I had just one “big” mission which I could realize through my profession, it was about environmental sustainability. Now I have one more mission: to become a successful woman. Now, I’ll explain, how it is the concept. Successful woman can show example and inspire other women. Successful woman has more resources to promote gender equality for her own sake but even more for that of others. I will not elaborate much more on this concept because, first of all, I should become that successful woman ;) 

About me

As you probably already guessed, I am a girl with ambitions. I do not know if it is only me or it is really more difficult for ladies to have an accomplished life. I have some thoughts to express which I will do in the nearest future.

I had a blog but I had some misunderstanding with that another blogging website, so they had closed my blog there. Maybe it is because gender topic is a sensitive one and sometimes there is a need to be extra careful when talking about it. I am telling extra, because I was careful but still my blog has been closed :)